Episode 17: Parenting Styles

Through greater awareness, we become more emotionally attuned to the needs and requirements of children.

Episode 17 Parenting Styles explores some of the ways in which we were parented. This awareness can be profound as it opens the door for more present and conscious parenting.

Especially in moments of stress and challenge which are unavoidable as a parent, it can prevent us from reverting back to what we were exposed to in particular if that was painful to experience as a child.

Episode 17 draws from the work of Jonice Webb Phd with Christine Musello and their profound book Running on Empty. Through greater awareness, we become more emotionally attuned to the needs and requirements of children as we navigate the ever challenging nature of modern parenting and its consequences.

I hope this episode promotes more exploration around what it is to be the champion, guide and protector of young ones.

Episode 16: Creating Trust

When we feel psychologically safe, our best emerges.

We can be so busy trying to appear confident and competent that we can forget how important it is to convey to others that we can be trusted. When we feel psychologically safe our best emerges, especially when mirrored and fostered by those around us.

Episode 16 looks at some of the measurable touch points that allow us to create and foster trust. Through following these frameworks our colleagues and partners know we can be relied upon. It also provides a measurable focus through which we can determine if those around us are worthy of our trust.

This Episode borrows from the ideas of Harvard Professor Amy Cuddy author of Presence and leading Vulnerability researcher Brené Brown Phd author of such books as Daring Greatly amongst other ideas.

Episode 15: Keeping Desire Alive for Busy Couples

How do we continue to allow love to grow without killing the fires of passion or dulling them in constant demands of our lives?

There is so much pressure these days on us and life can place a lot of demands. Added to this is the changing landscape of modern relationships that require a different approach to continue to stay fresh, alive and invigorated!

Episode 15 looks at what couples need to focus on to continue to thrive in relationship whilst building and running businesses. Love is in part about dependability and stability. Desire is about novelty and mystery. 

A small shift in focus and attention can really provide amazing rewards in our most intimate of relationships! To have the ability to renew and invigorate on an ongoing basis in relationship is so powerful!

Episode 14: Knowing Your Adult Attachment Style

The strength of I emerges from a strong foundation of us!

How is it that our relationships, in particular, our primary romantic ones can be our greatest source strength or greatest source of pain.

Episode 14 explores attachment theory and adult bonding. This episode draws from an amazing book on relationship dynamics Attached - The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it can help you find - and keep - love.

I was both elated and struck with grief when I came across this information and its ability to illuminate some of my past relationship dynamics. Knowing whether you have traits of secure, anxious or avoidant attachment can go along way in creating deeply stable relationships and understanding that we don't all have the same capacity for intimacy.

Episode 13: Avoiding Burnout

Many people are headed for burnout and aren't even aware that they are.

Life, business and relationships can be so demanding! Our demanding lifestyles can pull us in all sorts of directions and we can be driven by guilt, obligation and pressure to deliver.

This episode of Tools explores ways to focus on finding an optimal life tempo rather than being trapped in chronic business without actually returning any greater productivity.

 What if by taking a slight step back we actually became more productive, more profitable and we could begin to enjoy our success rather than it become a trap. This Episode looks at how that can and is possible!

Episode 12: Persuasion & Influence Tips

Ever wondered why it is that you said Yes to something when you meant to say no?

Or had purchase regret? Why did I agree to go to that function when I really didn't want to!

Ep 12 looks at Cialdini's Unconscious Influence Patterns and how they can have dramatic effects on our decision making in business, relationships, and life. This episode draws from the book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert B. Cialdini to help create greater awareness around how we are being influenced and directionalized, and not always for our best good!

Learn about how you can use these patterns to both advance your goals and defend against poor choices.

Episode 11: Face Works - Taking your Facebook Friends from 400 to 4000

Taking your Facebook Friends from 400 to 4000.

This Episode explains the method and principles I employed to build my Facebook friends network to over 4000 in a short space of time. I love to share tools and strategies that help people get the best return for the amount of time they have invested into their goals.

I discuss how I used a combination of ideas from Seth Godin, author of such books as Purple Cow - Transform your Business by Being Remarkable, and What to do When it's your Turn (and it's always your turn), with the work of Robert Cialdini, the author of Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. I combined Seth's ideas with two of Cialdini's Unconscious Influence Patterns to produce a rapid growth in my network. 

The more we can grow our network with methods and tools that work the greater our opportunities, possibilities, profitability and connection. I hope you find it helpful.

Episode 10: Embracing Rejection

How do we become the kind of person who says yes to the experience of people saying no to us!

This podcast looks at providing strategies around the effective management of our responses when others turn us down! 

Handling rejection is one of the key success elements for achieving our precious dreams and goals. Rejection can actually be a vital step forward in getting where we want to go so you could be missing out if you try to sidestep it. 

Learning how to neutralise our responses to being rejected can release so much stress and anxiety! I hope you enjoy the episode as much as I enjoyed making it!

Episode 09: Tips for Dynamic Parenting

Foundational frames to support parents in raising happy, healthy, and confident children. 

Parenting is such a challenging role, and like never before, modern parenting is presented with some novel hurdles to overcome.

This episode is based around some of the work of world-renowned author on codependency Pia Mellody combined with a number of other sources. In brief, we touch upon self-esteem, boundaries for children, teaching a moderate approach to life and much more. This episode is aimed at providing the listener with some fundamental touch points in supporting the welfare of your child or children. 

Episode 08: Introducing The Family System

The I of who we are emerges from an us - The family we grew up in.

This episode explores how we are parts of a larger whole known as our family system and how we adapt to support that larger system sometimes at the expense of self.

If you have ever been left bewildered by something that has happened in your family or confused with certain dynamics that are playing out with others, in particular, loved ones and work colleagues then this episode could be for you.

We will explore some ideas around healthy and unhealthy family dynamics and how they could be getting in the way of your happiness, success and fulfilment.

Episode 8 draws on some of the astounding contributions from therapists and recovery specialists such as Virginia Satir, John Bradshaw, Pia Melody, Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse and Claudia Black.

I hope you enjoy the episode!

Episode 07: Customer Classification

Expanding our contacts and data base is vital to long term business success.

This Episode looks at a strategy for managing customers and getting the most out of existing business networks whilst building new contacts.

This episode combines the work of Global philanthropist Marshall Thurber and author Malcom Gladwell who has written a number of best-selling books such as The Tipping Point and Blink.

The formula addressed in this episode can really assist in maximising time and focus for building connections.

Episode 06: Relationship Success Patterns Part II

Knowing what works and what doesn’t work helps to safe guard relationship success, and optimises the chances of wonderful partnerships.

This episode follows on from Episode 5 but takes a turn by looking at relationship patterns that disconnect us, frustrate us and despite good intention lead to relationship demise.

This episode combines a number of influences such as Dr John Gottman, author of The Relationship Cure with Joan DeClaire. Nita Tucker the author of Beyond Cinderella, How to Find the Man of Your Dreams and Marry Him, has some great insights into patterns that don’t work. Esther Perel author of Mating in Captivity ideas also influence this podcast and many others.

Episode 05: Relationship Success Patterns

Success in modern relationships requires new focus and understanding.

Drawing form those that have gone before us is of limited value as the world around us is constantly changing.

This podcast focuses on looking at some of the patterns of behaviour that create success in our romantic relationships.

Drawing inspiration and knowledge from people like Esther Perel a 30 year veteran in couples counselling and author of  Mating in Captivity (Unlocking Erotic Intelligence) to provide supportive insights into relationship success.

This episode aims to bring some new focus, and challenge outdated assumptions.

Episode 04: Understanding Emotional Bids

Emotional Bids are the ways in which we reach out for emotional connection from others.

It is a central component to why any relationship with another can continue to grow or dissolve.

Emotional Bids go back and forth between individuals all the time and how you respond or others respond to you is vital to relationship health. Knowing this essential concept can support your intimate primary relationship, business relationships and friendships.

Emotional Bids are part of the work of relationship researcher Dr John Gottman, author of the book The Relationship Cure written with Joan DeClaire. 

Anyone wanting to create better connections in their lives need to know about managing Emotional Bids.

Episode 03: Tips for Productive Disagreements

Having healthy fight form reduces stress and preserves relationships long term.

Arguments, fights and disagreements are a part of life. When we are in stimulating, challenging environments and relationships different points of view arise.

Through knowing how to disagree and not getting stuck on what we are disagreeing about we can emerge from this moments renewed, rather than frustrated and toxic.

Learning how to have more productive disputes is so valuable to continued forward momentum in relationships and business.

Episode 02: Setting Boundaries

Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is profoundly valuable.

Boundaries set the parameters of what we deem acceptable and unacceptable behaviour when dealing with others. This episode looks at boundaries and understanding more about how to be skilful in setting them. 

When we have functional boundaries our connections with others improve and our stress levels reduce. Special mention to Addictions specialist and author of the book "Set Yourself Free" Shirley Smith whose work focuses extensively on the subject of Boundaries.

Episode 01: Absolute Yes!

How do we decide to spend our time?

Episode 1 is aimed at providing a strategy for helping to decide what project, activity or people you are going to devote your precious time to engage in. The concept of Absolute Yes or Hell yes comes from the extremely successful entrepreneur and author Derek Sivers as a method for selection of future projects.