Personal Development

Episode 54: The How or When of Self Love

The power of asking ‘when’ questions

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Sometimes we ask how to questions when there could be better questions to ask.

When questions can be very powerful and create for us an opportunity to approach a block or goal in a different way.

"How do I learn to love myself more?" A powerful question however different to: "When will I love myself more?" Sometimes asking when will we change is very different to how can we change.

This episode explores why that is the case. Asking when questions can open up whole new  experiences for us in our lives!

Episode 52: Building Self Trust

How to develop informed self trust

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Many people think that when they feel they can trust self then they will take a risk. Unfortunately, informed self-trust and self-confidence come from risking first.

True trust comes from knowing that whether it works out in the moment or it doesn't, you can handle it! Once we know that we can manage ourselves through life's challenges then we deepen in self-trust and self-belief. However, this only arises by taking the steps first.

Episode 46: Facing Shame

Facing & moving through toxic shame

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This episode is by audience request. How do we face toxic shame and continue to move forward in our lives. Toxic Shame is where we take the feelings of shame and we collapse it into our identity. I have an uncomfortable feeling of wrongness becomes "I am wrong!"

When we begin to feel that we are wrong or we are driven to avoid this feeling it can really dictate our choices and actions in life. Shame survives by hiding and can pull us away from having the kind of joyful life and relationship experiences that we want and deserve!

I hope you find this episode helpful and offers you extra insight into self-support.

Episode 44: Moving Towards Functional Adult

Benchmarks in developing our sense of healthy functional self

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How do we esteem with greater effectiveness and acknowledge our innate worth?

When we are able to operate from a place of functional adult our relationships improve and deepen. This focus is just as valuable when considering improving business relationships as it is in our personal lives.

Some of our past experiences and conditioning has caused us to lose sight of our inborn value. When we devalue self, we set a precedent for others to do the same.

Functional adulting is something we do and when we understand more about what it involves to embrace this life improves. I hope you find the episode thought provoking!

 

Episode 39: Using your Relationship as a Crash Point

Bring your best self home

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Modern life is so demanding and we can get pulled in so many directions. As a result, we can unintentionally put our intimate relationship on the back burner.

We give all day to others and then come home and crash onto the couch, disappear into social media and forget to connect with the one we love most.

If we continue to use our home and our relationship as a place to go to shut down then ultimately our relationship will be at risk. We lose the spark as we are only giving our best selves to our customers and the big wide world. All we have left consistently for our partners is the crumbs.

We need to make sure we bring our best selves home once in a while like we did when the relationship began if we want to keep the stability and erotic alive!

Episode 37: Sufficiency

What if you knew you were already enough as you were right now?

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How would that inform your decisions about yourself and your business?

When we come from the myth of scarcity it can drive us to operate in ways that are selfish, short-sighted and problematic.

As someone who has been driven by the idea of not being good enough and not having enough for most of my life, it is truly exhausting. Scarcity has at times robbed me of true joy and creativity.

This episode begins to explore the idea of sufficiency, inspired by the likes of Philanthropist and futurist Buckminster "Bucky" Fuller and a couple of his students, Marshall Thurber and Lynne Twist.

The paradigms of business and life are generally moving towards more informed views and global inclusiveness. I am enough and so are you! Enjoy!

Episode 32: Self-Awareness and Business Intelligence

The fundamentals of creating a successful business

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Marty Vids is back on the program for this episode. I have heard of him being described as the Happy Entrepreneur which I think is very fitting! Apart from his integrity he has the results on the board having build three businesses from start up to a million dollars turn over a year after tax! Less than 3% of small business owners in Australia achieve that once let alone 3 times!

In this episode we cover a wide range of elements fundamental to creating a successful business, interacting with others, managing set backs and mastering adversity. Marty has a wealth of knowledge and insight to share around modern business, you will really enjoy and take away value form this episode!

Episode 31: Self-Awareness and Relationships

Improving your self-awareness improves your life

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The one consistent element at the centre of all my relationships both successful and unsuccessful is me! One of the most dramatic ways to improve your life is to improve your self-awareness.

Episode 31 looks at a couple of key areas that can assist you in developing self-awareness so as to more effectively achieve goals, reduce recurring unpleasant dynamics with others and just enjoy life more.

We are with ourselves 24/7 so it makes absolute sense to know more about how we are presently putting the world together.

Episode 26: A Ramble on Motivation

What makes motivation easier to sustain?

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Motivation for some can be about whipping oneself up into a frenzy of desire and activity. I have no issue with this as indeed for some people that is exactly what works!

However, for others, this can be difficult to sustain and that is what Episode 26 looks at. What elements of motivation are good to understand, and how do we operate in a way that supports our motivation and drives.

Self-care and effective strategies will make it easier for you to get motivated and maintain it as you move in the direction of the goals that you have set for yourself. 

Episode 25: The Art Of Feedback

Giving and receiving feedback is so vital for many areas in life

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It is essentail for businesses to move forward, for individuals to continue to improve, and for relationships to stay healthy.

This episode looks at tips both for when you are looking to get feedback from others and also for when you are in the position of delivering feedback.

Depending on how we set things up when it is time to offer feedback can have a massive impact on how well and effective the whole process goes.

People who are looking to get better in any area of life are more likely than not going to have to seek out feedback. If we are passionate enough about where it is we are going then we can incorporate and even embrace feedback we need that may not be the feedback we want!

Episode 24: What Gets In The Way?

There are so many reasons that we don't get what we want.

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This episode explores what some of those momentum blocking components are.

Sometimes we are our own worst enemy so it is so valuable to know how it is that we can get in our own way. Understanding how we prevent our own success and how to identify these elements allows us to break through and get back on track.

I hope you enjoy this episode and that it helps you achieve your goals faster and helps you and others get "unstuck" faster!

Episode 19: Settling For Emotional Crumbs

What are we tolerating in our lives as far as emotional treatment goes?

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Depending on our experiences growing up with Emotions and our families approach to dealing with feelings it will affect our adult lives.

If the bench mark for emotional attunement and nurture was low then we may be unwittingly settling for way less than we deserve because it is what is familiar to us even if it isn't pleasant!

What do we deserve? What are we allowing or not allowing when it comes to emotional literacy and our most central romantic and business relationships?

For many, adequate let alone effective emotional management is an area that we simply weren't taught as effectively as we could have been. Maybe it is time for an emotional inventory and review?

Episode 18: Embracing The Imposter Syndrome

We all have moments where we don't feel like we are enough.

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I don't know enough, I don't do enough, I can't be enough! Anyone who is pushing their comfort zone, striving towards goals and building a future will find this Episode valuable. Many of us feel like a fraud from time to time and it really helps to have some methods to confront that.

Episode 18 of Embracing The Imposter Syndrome looks at tips and strategies for managing effectively when you enter that space of critical self-doubt. How to continue to show up and be seen even when we feel we are going to exposed as a fraud for all to see!

Through facing The Imposter Syndrome we can truly grow and develop a deeper sense of confidence as well as self belief!

Episode 17: Parenting Styles

Through greater awareness, we become more emotionally attuned to the needs and requirements of children.

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Episode 17 Parenting Styles explores some of the ways in which we were parented. This awareness can be profound as it opens the door for more present and conscious parenting.

Especially in moments of stress and challenge which are unavoidable as a parent, it can prevent us from reverting back to what we were exposed to in particular if that was painful to experience as a child.

Episode 17 draws from the work of Jonice Webb Phd with Christine Musello and their profound book Running on Empty. Through greater awareness, we become more emotionally attuned to the needs and requirements of children as we navigate the ever challenging nature of modern parenting and its consequences.

I hope this episode promotes more exploration around what it is to be the champion, guide and protector of young ones.

Episode 15: Keeping Desire Alive for Busy Couples

How do we continue to allow love to grow without killing the fires of passion or dulling them in constant demands of our lives?

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There is so much pressure these days on us and life can place a lot of demands. Added to this is the changing landscape of modern relationships that require a different approach to continue to stay fresh, alive and invigorated!

Episode 15 looks at what couples need to focus on to continue to thrive in relationship whilst building and running businesses. Love is in part about dependability and stability. Desire is about novelty and mystery. 

A small shift in focus and attention can really provide amazing rewards in our most intimate of relationships! To have the ability to renew and invigorate on an ongoing basis in relationship is so powerful!

Episode 14: Knowing Your Adult Attachment Style

The strength of I emerges from a strong foundation of us!

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How is it that our relationships, in particular, our primary romantic ones can be our greatest source strength or greatest source of pain.

Episode 14 explores attachment theory and adult bonding. This episode draws from an amazing book on relationship dynamics Attached - The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it can help you find - and keep - love.

I was both elated and struck with grief when I came across this information and its ability to illuminate some of my past relationship dynamics. Knowing whether you have traits of secure, anxious or avoidant attachment can go along way in creating deeply stable relationships and understanding that we don't all have the same capacity for intimacy.

Episode 13: Avoiding Burnout

Many people are headed for burnout and aren't even aware that they are.

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Life, business and relationships can be so demanding! Our demanding lifestyles can pull us in all sorts of directions and we can be driven by guilt, obligation and pressure to deliver.

This episode of Tools explores ways to focus on finding an optimal life tempo rather than being trapped in chronic business without actually returning any greater productivity.

 What if by taking a slight step back we actually became more productive, more profitable and we could begin to enjoy our success rather than it become a trap. This Episode looks at how that can and is possible!

Episode 12: Persuasion & Influence Tips

Ever wondered why it is that you said Yes to something when you meant to say no?

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Or had purchase regret? Why did I agree to go to that function when I really didn't want to!

Ep 12 looks at Cialdini's Unconscious Influence Patterns and how they can have dramatic effects on our decision making in business, relationships, and life. This episode draws from the book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert B. Cialdini to help create greater awareness around how we are being influenced and directionalized, and not always for our best good!

Learn about how you can use these patterns to both advance your goals and defend against poor choices.

Episode 11: Face Works - Taking your Facebook Friends from 400 to 4000

Taking your Facebook Friends from 400 to 4000.

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This Episode explains the method and principles I employed to build my Facebook friends network to over 4000 in a short space of time. I love to share tools and strategies that help people get the best return for the amount of time they have invested into their goals.

I discuss how I used a combination of ideas from Seth Godin, author of such books as Purple Cow - Transform your Business by Being Remarkable, and What to do When it's your Turn (and it's always your turn), with the work of Robert Cialdini, the author of Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. I combined Seth's ideas with two of Cialdini's Unconscious Influence Patterns to produce a rapid growth in my network. 

The more we can grow our network with methods and tools that work the greater our opportunities, possibilities, profitability and connection. I hope you find it helpful.

Episode 10: Embracing Rejection

How do we become the kind of person who says yes to the experience of people saying no to us!

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This podcast looks at providing strategies around the effective management of our responses when others turn us down! 

Handling rejection is one of the key success elements for achieving our precious dreams and goals. Rejection can actually be a vital step forward in getting where we want to go so you could be missing out if you try to sidestep it. 

Learning how to neutralise our responses to being rejected can release so much stress and anxiety! I hope you enjoy the episode as much as I enjoyed making it!